When the child is afraid

A person's love life develops from early childhood to adulthood. The transition to the next stage of development can only take place when the natural needs and mental needs of love, unconditional acceptance and belonging have been met at the previous stage. Due to the immaturity of the nervous system, emotional experiences in young children are short-lived, intense and unstable.

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Fear in a child

Young children fear many things. What can I do to help them?

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1. Children's emotions

In the toddler period, i.e. between 1-3 years of age, the child has already established contact with the environment, moves independently, which makes it easier for him to maintain this contact and is able to communicate with people from the immediate environment. His further psychoemotional and social development depends on environmental and educational factors. The form of communication with the child is essential for the development of psychoemotional, cognitive and social processes. Some emotions are innate, such as fear or anger, and it is important to remember that. However, depending on whether the child's biological needs are fully met or not, the child experiences pleasant and unpleasant emotions. Failure to meet natural mental needs at any stage of development creates a gap that prevents harmonious emotional and spiritual growth. As the body grows and matures, cognitive processes continue to develop - emotional development is still standing. In terms of emotions, a person becomes internally stunted. Emotional development - these are the stages of the growth of emotions in a particular age stage, which cause the internal and social adaptations to progress to higher and higher levels. Emotional development builds individual features adapting to social life, shapes features that are an indispensable element of the development of every human being. The source of anxiety processes are often negative emotions, which may last for some time, even when their cause loses its influence. A clear example of this phenomenon are all psychological injuries resulting from traumatic events in human life.

2. What is the child afraid of?

Children's fears are also one of the stages of emotional development, so it is not worth underestimating either their intensity or frequency. Two-year-olds have auditory and visual fears, which means they are afraid of the noise of a vacuum cleaner, train, or dark, large objects. They are also afraid of any changes in space, which is why they find it difficult to move to another place or they are restless when their favorite toy changes its position. The most famous fear for this period is separation anxiety - being away from parents, especially from the mother, causes emotional tension, sometimes bouts of hysteria. Three-year-olds are afraid of old people, animals, the dark, uniformed people, witches and people dressed in masks, hence some preschoolers' encounter with a clown ends in crying. Generally, preschool age is a period in which fears of the darkness, parents leaving, various unknown sounds, changes in lights in the rooms, because it is associated with various shadows on the walls. Five-year-olds are also afraid of any bodily injuries, e.g. dog bites, falling down stairs, etc. In six-year-olds, auditory dreads, spatial anxieties increase, they are also afraid of ghosts, witches, storms and minor injuries, with paradoxically greater tolerance to more serious accidents, e.g. cuts are more stressful for six-year-olds than a broken arm. Seven-year-olds begin to use their vivid imaginations in their fears, fueled by what they see on TV. Therefore, they are dominated by visual fears related to darkness, gloomy colors, the sight of blood, the feeling of terror, e.g. they are afraid of war, burglars, attics and basements. They are not eager to walk in the eruptive forest, because all noises and crackles cause a thrill on their skin. They also start to have social, social, and self-related fears, such as fear of being laughed at when they arrive late for school or being yelled at when they fail to do their homework. Gradually, around the age of 8, the fears typical of childhood fade away, because the child is able to explain many things to himself, assess on the basis of the analysis and with the support of adults. Social fears and fears about the loss of loved ones last longer.

3. How to help a child who is afraid?

Most childhood fears are mastered by parents with a warm, understanding approach and wise parental methods. A child simply grows out of many fears, but there are children whose emotional development is to some extent disturbed and it is associated with the difficulty of controlling their own emotions and experiencing them. The following bodily discomforts may be triggered by the increasing anxiety that your child tries to deal with:

  • palpitations
  • stinging / heartache,
  • shortness of breath
  • shaking hands
  • pain of unknown origin,
  • stomach pain,
  • vomiting / nausea
  • throat tightness / throat lump
  • ear noise,
  • fainting / fainting.

In this case, it is worth going to specialists, a pediatrician and a child therapist. A child who has nightmares, wets at night, complains of malaise, and may need a specialist because some of the fears are too burdensome for him. In this case, it is necessary to check the child's general health and recommend a specific therapy, according to the diagnosis.

Anna Czupryniak, MA

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