I love you, I'm sorry, I'm proud of you. Say these words to your child as often as possible
Regardless of the age of the children, their parents have a great influence on them. They shape the personality, view of the world and character. They do it in different ways. One of them is language. Here are seven sentences your child should hear from you at least once in their lifetime.
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1. I love you
It is not just a declaration of love. It is also an expression of acceptance, support, and showing that the little one is important. The words "I love you" cannot be overdosed. Thanks to them, the child becomes more confident, bolder and joyful. He has a strong belief that his parents trust him and surround him with love. Repeat these words as often as possible, don't put it off until later. In a few years, when you hear them from your offspring, you will be delighted.
2. I'm sorry
There are no perfect people, everyone makes mistakes, although they are not always aware of it. If something happens that you are responsible for something, don't hesitate to apologize. This way you prove that you are a good person, with principles. At the same time, you accept your own imperfections and you are aware of them. Remember that your child learns most effectively by example. If he hears the word "I'm sorry" from you several times in different situations, he will start using it himself.
3. I forgive
This is a very rare skill - forgiveness. It requires strength and a strong character. And for your child, this is what a parent is: strong and brave. Therefore, teach to admit mistakes and forgive. Drawing conclusions and forgiving should replace condemnation, reproach and pointing out imperfections.
4. I am proud of you
Children like to be appreciated. It gives them strength and builds self-esteem. When they see that you see the effort you put into your work, they get wings. They want support and acceptance. Therefore, talk about your pride. Emphasize it especially when your child makes his own, autonomous decision. This is a sign that it is self-reliant and independent.
5. I am listening to you
I listen and hear. Here and now. I am with you. I hear, it means that I am involved in my child's life. I'm interested in his feelings. I gently inquire what hurts them, oppresses them, is curious or sad. The attitude in which the parent listens to the child effectively is worth its weight in gold today. The ubiquitous access to multimedia means that adults cannot focus only on the baby. And the baby needs it. He wants you to consciously be there and talk. He answered questions, maybe he was silent at times - children have a need to talk about their own feelings. So don't lecture, but listen. Instead of rebuking your child's views, give your advice. Always consider your child's feelings.
6. You have responsibilities
Each of us has responsibilities that change with age. Children should also learn that there are things they have to do. They should clean up after themselves, wash their hands before eating, take out the trash. What's more, parents who teach their children to do their duties set limits, and this makes young children feel safer and more independent. Of course, you shouldn't recommend doing things your little one is unable to do. Tasks should be age appropriate. You should also be taught to bear consequences if a child does not fulfill his / her obligations.
7. Believe in yourself
Self-confidence works wonders. A child who has developed a healthy self-esteem has no problems with accepting defects, is open to challenges posed by life, is able to deal with conflicts, knows how to discharge emotions. How to build self-confidence? Encourage the child to take up activities, notice his efforts, appreciate him. Do not judge unfounded, try to show that failure is only half the way to success. And if he does not reach it - support and console. Emphasize good sides, give suggestions on how to eliminate the bad ones. Do not be overwhelmed - it leads to laziness.