Teenagers don't want to live. More and more suicide attempts and self-harm
They are ashamed to admit their problems. After all, they have to live up to the expectations of their parents, peers, and Facebook friends. They pretend everything is ok, and when no one sees, they mutilate the body. They feel relieved, but only for a moment. The problems of today's teenagers must finally be recognized.
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1. Unite on forums
"At first, there were delicate lines on my hands," a teenage internet user writes. "But summer came and people noticed it. I started to cut myself on my stomach, legs or neck. I have a lot of scars. Even when it's 30 degrees, I wear long pants and long pants. Sleeve. People can guess. Weird. And it's like a drug. I'm addicted. "
"I was in the first year of junior high school," another girl recalls. I realized that it gave me some relief. I tried to stop. I couldn't. I got addicted. I had no control over myself. I became a big fan of long-sleeved shirts. I was terrified that someone might see how much I couldn't handle myself. I learned not to show my emotions. More than once I was close to crying or hysterics, but I learned to play that everything was wrong. it's ok. I was laughing at the moment when I wanted to howl in despair over my helplessness. "
For young people, experiencing physical pain is a lifesaver from emotional pain (123rf.com)
"At the age of 17, I crippled myself ... now my whole arm is scarred and I'm terribly ashamed of it. And why did I do it? I liked feeling this pain, I felt that I deserved it, with all the muck that surrounds me running down with my blood. ".
"As a teenager, I also cut myself with a razor blade," we read in the next post on the forum. "Then I felt great. The new physical pain was replacing the previous psychological pain."
It is no coincidence that mostly girls talk about mutilations on the forums. The report on violence and self-mutilation states that statistically almost every fourth (23%) young woman under 18 years of age is self-mutilating, one in ten (10%) attempts suicide.
2. 7 percent teenagers are trying to take their own lives
According to data provided by the police, in the years 2013-2016, as many as 466 people aged 13-18 wanted to commit suicide. 101 of them succeeded. In the same data, we can also find information about children up to 12 years of age. Among them, there were 9 suicides. 2 were killed.
The latest figures are even more alarming. Only in 2017 alone, 28 children under the age of 12 wanted to commit suicide. One of them could not be saved. 702 teenagers between 13 and 18 years old also tried to kill themselves, and 115 of them died.
More and more teens are trying to take their own lives (123rf.com)
These are only attempts documented as suicide. Some of them may not be detected by the relevant services, covered up by the family, or constitute a seemingly harmless demonstration - sometimes harmless for a while. The popular opinion that the person talking about suicide will not do it is not true. Many people signal their intentions in advance. The Empowering Children Foundation has published a report on the experience of violence and self-aggression by children and adolescents.
According to the report, 7 percent. people between 13 and 17 years of age made attempts to kill itself. Young people also massively commit acts of self-harm, self-mutilation. 7 percent teenagers admit that when faced with problems, there is no one to turn to for help.
- It's good that the research on violence, suicide attempts and self-mutilation saw the light of day. That the topic of violence at school by peers and self-harm is no longer embarrassing and we ask for appropriate treatment according to the results quoted in the research. Secondly, getting to know the scale shows how much there is to be done, which, given the current staff shortages in psychiatry and child psychology, makes it sound the alarm loudly - comments Katarzyna Słowik, psychologist.
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3. Physical pain as a rescue from mental pain
Most people who are victims of violence experience it from their loved ones. This is an additional factor that makes it difficult to admit to someone from the outside what is happening, and secondly - it causes a greater sense of loneliness, guilt, and no chance to improve one's fate.
A child, as a person completely dependent on its parents, if there is no one close in the circle of friends or in the extended family, in the face of physical or psychological violence on the part of the parents, falls into a trap with no way out. Negative emotions must find an outlet, and that is why the little creature, harmed on all sides, begins to act like the torturers - to harm itself. Self-harm in depression or as a way to relieve negative emotions is an increasingly common problem among young people.
Self-mutilation affects one in six people aged 11-17. Some admit that experiences such as skin cutting already have the hallmarks of an addiction that is beyond their control in difficult situations.
One in four teenagers mutilate themselves (123rf.com)
- Sometimes children and adolescents cut their hands, arms, and more often their thighs out of helplessness or lack of resolution, so that they cannot be seen - admits the psychologist. - Talking to them, I ask: how did it happen? They relate that they have been mocked or mistreated at school and cannot cry, shout or react, so they go to the school restroom and cut their skin to feel the pain greater than the pain they are experiencing. Sometimes at home they stare at the desk when blood is draining. They say it allows you to feel emotions.
The problem does not only concern children from dysfunctional families, but also those from the so-called good houses. - Resigned children often mention the thoughts of suicide as an opportunity to solve a difficult problem at school or at home. They say that they no longer have the strength, that no one is listening to them. And this does not apply only to dysfunctional or pathological families. It can happen in any family, even in one in which there are appropriate relationships - emphasizes the psychologist.
4. Pressure is sometimes worse than violence
- For several years I have been working in psychological clinics for children and adolescents, as well as I am a school psychologist in high school. The cited studies confirm my observations - admits psychologist Katarzyna Słowik. - Children and adolescents are overloaded with the expectations of their parents and school, their own ambitions confronted with the successes of other peers. The excess of information and stimuli produced by the surrounding world makes young people completely unable to cope. The popularity of social media complicates the situation further. Throwing someone out of your group of friends or blocking them is a great frustration. Not to mention the wave of hate, which can completely undermine the self-esteem of a young, still uncertainly moving young person in the world. If we add that at this age the opinion of peers is the most significant, everything looks even more serious - comments the psychologist.
Young people are overworked. The school programs and methods of functioning of educational institutions, changed too often, have a negative impact on the number of duties imposed on the shoulders of a young person. Too strong family and social pressure results in depression in children and adolescents.
Experiencing violence and pressure leads adolescents to attempt suicide and self-destruct (123rf.com)
- Teenagers work at school from 8.00 to 16.00, then they have tutoring or additional classes, in the evening they do their homework and study even at night - notes the psychologist. - It happens that they sleep for several hours. They work harder than many adults. And it is known that sleep is essential for a young brain. They do not have time for their interests, thanks to which, they support their own self-esteem, satisfaction and can rest. Burned-out teens do not want to take up challenges because they feel they are lost at the start. Older students learned to combine in order to survive. They choose which subjects and grades are important, how many hours it takes to walk. What will be needed in the future at university. They have other problems with their peers. Teenagers are assessed everywhere: at school, at home, in extracurricular activities, on the Internet. Sometimes they disagree, rebel and shout, and then they are perceived as aggressive people who threaten others.
5. Children and young people are victims of violence
72 percent teenagers admit to being victims of violence by their peers or adults. The experience of violence affects the physical, mental and sexual spheres. Children and adolescents experience beatings, sexual abuse, and neglect.
41 percent people before the age of 18 experienced violence from close adults. 33 percent was a victim of physical abuse. Every fifth respondent is a victim of psychological violence. Also, every fifth person has experienced sexual violence. 7 percent has been sexually abused, in most cases by peers, and less frequently by adults.
42 percent teenagers experience physical violence of their peers, over 29% colleagues are mentally abusive. 18 percent people are victims of collective violence at school.
People from dysfunctional homes are in a particularly difficult situation. Children of alcoholics or drug addicts are five times more likely to experience parental abuse. Their friends do not spare them either - they abuse them three times more often than other peers.
People in homes with an alcohol or drug problem are also three times more likely to be sexually abused. In many of these homes, children also witness violence between their parents. 13 percent of the respondents admit to seeing aggressive situations at home. A child witness of violence experiences the same feelings and subsequent traumas as a victim of violence.
Alcohol accounts for 15 percent. houses. Almost the same number of children (14%) are brought up in incomplete families. 5 percent teenagers have experienced a suicide attempt by someone from their immediate family.
The effects on young people whose identities are just emerging are terrifying. Many of them do not stand up mentally, make suicide attempts, acts of self-harm. Every year, even several-year-old children try to take their own lives. Some people do it. The problem has grown noticeably in recent years and will continue to grow if appropriate preventive measures are not taken.
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6. Help for people in crisis
For people in an emotional crisis and for their relatives, special, free of charge, often even 24/7 helplines have been created. You can get professional help from specialists on duty there. Information is also provided on local help centers, support groups and psychological therapy options. Parents who notice problems in their children should not take them lightly or blame them on the difficult period of adolescence. Better to intervene before it's too late.
116 111 The Helpline provides help to children and young people. Since 2008, it has been run by the Empowering Children Foundation (formerly Nobody's Children Foundation).
800 12 00 02 The "Blue Line" national telephone for victims of domestic violence is open 24 hours a day. By calling the number provided, you will receive support, psychological help and information about the possibilities of obtaining help closest to your place of residence.
116 123 Crisis Helpline provides psychological help to people experiencing emotional crisis, lonely, suffering from depression, insomnia, chronic stress.
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