"Naughty" child in kindergarten
A disobedient child in kindergarten can make the work of kindergarten teachers difficult, and give parents a headache and embarrassment. Guardians want their children to be disciplined and not cause educational problems. After complaints from kindergarten carers, they often get angry with their children and try to explain to the child that the rules set in the group should be followed. The preschooler is rarely "rude" deliberately. His behavior, which may seem mischievous and offensive to adults, is most often the result of his curiosity about the world and his willingness to meet other people.
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1. Social development of a preschooler
Development of a three-year-old
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The social development of a preschool child can be viewed from two points of view:
- as the integration of children into a social group, which is referred to as socialization,
- as the formation of an individual within a group.
The process of socialization leads to the individual mastering the knowledge of his group and the knowledge of social roles, as well as mastering the standards and values adopted in this group. For preschoolers, games are a good school of social learning. Particularly important are role games that allow you to discover the rules related to a given social role. Pre-school children prefer to lay down rules on their own and submit their actions to them, rather than follow rules imposed by others. Play is good for the child's understanding of adult social roles. Preschoolers explore various social roles in play: family and professional. They adopt them according to their gender: girls usually play female roles, boys usually play male roles.
The games are also an opportunity to establish and develop contacts with peers. Younger children (three-year-olds, four-year-olds) still play alone, not showing social activity and remaining in the group as an observer, or they imitate the behavior of their peers in parallel play, without affecting the behavior of other children. At the end of the pre-school period, children are capable of team play, which is characterized by establishing a common goal and action plan. This is when the little ones make their first friendships.
2. Rules of conduct at home and in kindergarten
Criteria for good and bad behavior change as the child grows, as the toddler's awareness and ability to guide his own behavior increases. A baby who throws a porcelain elephant off a dresser is not "rude", but when a four-year-old does so in a fit of anger and dissatisfaction - the matter requires educational intervention by parents. A preschool child, especially a five- and six-year-old child, knows what can and cannot be done at home or in kindergarten. If parents set up parenting rules, that's very good. The child then has certain established norms that he tries to follow and realizes that exceeding them may result in a penalty.
Establishing home and daycare rules is not keeping your child “tethered”. The rules of conduct allow the whole family to function well and help in upbringing. Transparent rules inform the child what the parents or guardians expect from him and make the child feel safer, he knows the limits of behavior. He knows what is allowed and what is forbidden. However, it is important that adults also respect established rules. The child takes an example from above. In addition, clear rules are conducive to the development of self-discipline in a child. Of course, preschoolers are "steered" by external rules, but adults are their legislators and they enforce compliance with established laws. The established norms the child gradually begins to consider as his own, and over time he feels more and more responsible for what he does.
Parents should teach their toddler from an early age that he should share with others - sweets, toys, etc. A three-year-old may still not know under what circumstances to say "please" or "thank you", but an adult should tell him or her. Five-year-olds usually no longer have problems with adjusting to the rules that apply in kindergarten, which may still be difficult for three- and four-year-olds. When playing, older preschoolers respect the principle of "you once, me once", younger children prefer to exchange a toy for another.
3. Negative behavior of the child
Aggression and disobedience are considered negative behaviors in children. Aggression is understood as an action taken with the intention of harming others. Aggression occurs in a child's development when the child realizes that it may be causing other people's concerns. Preschool children can display two forms of aggression: instrumental and hostile. Instrumental aggression occurs in striving to achieve something desired, e.g. a toy. In this case, the child may push or hit another toddler. The aggression of the enemy, in turn, is calculated to cause pain to the other person, both by retaliation and by means of establishing group dominance. Instrumental aggression disappears with age as children learn to compromise.
Pre-school children are more likely to tease other toddlers than to show physical aggression. The reason for conflicts among children in kindergarten is often an object, a toy, which is an object of desire. It is interesting, however, that after one of the children obtains the desired item, neither of them is interested in it anymore. The will to possess an item and the ability to win with others are part of a child's interaction. Fights over objects occur less and less in older children. However, with age, forms of verbal aggression arise and intensify, such as threats, teasing or insults.
Younger children may rebel against accepting the rules set in kindergarten. Sometimes it is simply a symptom of a child's temperament or entering a phase of the so-called negativism, when the toddler is willing to answer "no" to all suggestions. You must not force your child to follow the rules by hostility or shouting. Such educational methods are not effective, and they will give rise to an even greater rebellion of the child. Discipline should be done only for manifest manifestations of hostility and disobedience. The aggressive behavior of a three-year-old towards peers is usually not a symptom of "rude" but an incompetent attempt to make contact, curiosity. And most importantly, raising a preschooler should not so much reprimand bad behavior as praise for good behavior. It is rewards, not punishments, that are educational.